My wife and I got married when I was 25 and she was 30. We had been dating and engaged for about three years already. We were in no hurry to have kids as we were both gleefully working our hearts out and figured we had all the time in the world. Add to that the fact that I was still very much in the single guy mindset that getting a girl pregnant is the worst thing that can happen in life (death is a close second). Getting married does not change this mind set AT ALL! It actually take several years before the thought of pregnancy and kids sinks in and you can start thinking about it as a positive thing.
You must remember that men are trained from their teenage years that the rules of the game are simple: if you can get laid, you win. If you get laid BUT get the girl pregnant, you lose. Game over!
After we were married for about a year, my wife started kicking around the idea of having kids. It took more than a bit of convincing to get me to agree with this idea. Ultimately, we compromised. We agreed that she’d stop taking “the pill” and we’d stop using any other protection. “When it happens, it happens” became our mantra.
I was content when month after month she still was not pregnant, figuring that I had been given a little more time to enjoy being young and married. Unfortunately, the months kept on going with not even a hint of a pregnant wife.
